Friends are as effective as a sword that
is being used to attack us or a shield that will protect us from the attacks in
the battlefield that we call 'life'. They help us getting through hardships,
cheer us up and when we need, they become our back-ups. But when picked
carelessly our friendships may backfire and leave us in a tough situation.
There are many kinds of friends; colleagues, friends met through social media,
neighbors, classmates. Each of them has their significant role in our life.
Some of them helps us doing home works, some of them are always upbringing and
cheers us up, some of them accompany us when we are alone and depressed. But we
must be careful on friends whom we will completely trust and share our private
matters. We must judge their characters well. One might look different than he
or she really is. There are qualifications that we must find in a real friend
who we can trust such as characteristic features, social interactions and
maturity.
First
of all, characteristic features of a person whom you will choose as a friends
is a crucial matter which you should be aware of. Every person is different
from the other hence characteristic features differ from one to another. If one
does not act strictly when judging characteristic features of friends around,
s/he might be lied to or even get betrayed. For instance if you keep trusting a
person who does not value loyalty, you will eventually got betrayed from that
person like Julies Caesar, who said ''You, too, Brutus?'' as his last words. In
addition to loyalty, honesty is also vital characteristic feature to find in a
real friend. The lack of honesty can cause insecurity between friends and that
leads to parting ways with each other. Overall, one must be aware of what are
the characteristic features of the people around him/her and choose friends
depending on these qualifications.
Secondly,
social interactions of a friend is way too pivotal to ignore when choosing a
friend. The way your friend interacts with other people will eventually
influence your own relation with those people too. If your friend is acting
hostile towards someone then that person will probably feel resentment towards
you too since s/he sees you with your friend. On the other hand, your friend's
positive interactions will benefit you. For instance, when your friend acts
respectful towards your elders then they will think that you are such a kind
person too unless you disrespect them. Human nature mostly been this like this;
people will usually judge you with what you look like or especially with whom
they see you are close with. Overall, a friends interactions with others are
another compelling matter that you must not miss when choosing a friend.
Lastly,
maturity is a must-have prerequisite in choosing a friend. The way your friend
reacts to the events (which are occurring around you and your friend) will
shape your own reactions too and being mature helps us with our
responsibilities or problem solving abilities. Thus progress will be made
within our life. As an illustration, a mature friend would not make biased
decisions and think twice before deciding while considering every circumstance.
On the other hand, an immature friend who rushes every decision with a lack of
the grasp in the matter would also abash the harmony of your decision making thus
make you vulnerable to the negative consequences of your wrong moves. The
aforementioned reasons are why you must be vigilant about maturity of a person
when choosing a friend.
In
epitome, the process of choosing a friend has three main points: characteristic
features, social interactions and maturity. You must pick friends attentively
and look for at least these three qualifications since friends are like double
edged swords. Characteristic features are what makes someone worthy of others
respect. A friend must be equipped with good characteristic features to avoid
bringing harm to others. A friend who has pleasant interactions with others
will raise the quality of your life, as well. And a mature natured friend would
help one to cope with unexpected events that we face within our lives. Since a
human being cannot live a life without
interacting with others nor live without a friend, every single person must be
cautious when choosing a friend otherwise you would find yourself sinking in a
swamp; thinking about how you ended up in that situation while going down.
by Kadir Akkaya 1st year ELT Student @Erciyes University
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